So yesterday, I found out Cookie has cancer. And the vet said she's not going to live for more than one week. So we're going to put her down. It was my idea. I can't see her suffer any longer. And just like that, we're buying another emotional support dog. I mean, we have to. I have anxiety AND depression. So another one is mandatory. Cookie seems to know tonight is her last night with me. She's extra sweet and supportive. It's my choice on which new dog I want. But I can't decide. Will you guys help me choose? Here are all the choices I was given:
A dark brown/black collie with golden "eyebrows" and a gorgeous golden-tipped tail. His chest is white, and his name is Brownie.
A pitbull/rottweiler mix. We would be rescuing her, because she would have been killed. Her name is Sophia.
Going along with what @EveningStar said,
It is true about dogs living 6-8 months after diagnosis to live with no chance of surgery.
And if it was really 1 week left, you would of seen signs, eg, loss of weight, less joy in doing stuff, ect.
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I hope you are coping well with this sudden death, I too have lost dear animals to me this year.
Have a good day :)
@Nightmist No, I just got him....?
Wait you’ve had Brownie for a while?! :o
@Riverbreeze(phone) Like I said to @Windfeather, I really appreciate it.
@Windfeather Thanks so much. I really appreciate it.
@EveningStar Yeah. Brownie helps.
@Tiger Brownie gets along great with Stout. It's like they are partners. One time, I went on a bike ride with my family. Stout knocked over the trash can, and when I walked in, Brownie barked and looked at him. It's like she was keeping watch for us while Stout "broke into" the trash can.
;d Why does everyone seem so suspicious of Brightmist?!?! She’s done nothing wrong! Everyone grieves differently
I’m so sorry about Cookie ;d I don’t think it is a bad idea AT ALL to get a new dog! The only reason I would say to wait is because the right dog will always come along, and Rushing can sometimes end up with a stray. (Not that you’re family would do that; I just know some families do that ;( )
I wouldn’t grieve for TOO long..... Cookie’s in a better place! Sometimes it’s unhealthy to overgrieve a death, because it can lead to thoughts of guilt. We’re here for you! I, personally, would choose Brownie because I like Aussies, and collies are quite close to the Aussie breed.
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I don't want to be rude or offensive during what I'm sure is a really trying time, but I did some research and even dogs with an extremely poor chance of survival and no chance of surgery can last another 3 to 6 months and that's including elderly dogs. Since Cookie was quite young it seems quite unlikely that Cookie would have died within a week. You might want to check your vet was giving you all the facts. I hope Brownie gives you all the love you need. <3
I'm so so sorry Brightmist. Losing a pet is one of the hardest things to go through. Grief is normal and sharing that you are grieving and asking for suport during your grief does not make you a wimp. It makes you brave. If you need to talk about it I'm here. But believe me grief is normal human thing to feel. I'll be praying for you
I’m so sorry💜 I know first hand what it’s like to loose a furry friend, and I’m very happy that you can continue to have more fun memories with a new friend! Cookie sounds like an amazing dog 🐶 I’ll be praying for you!
@Cinderfrost (Sunblaze) Thanks!😊 I was really nervous you would think I was.
Why would you think we would think you were a wimp!? Its totally normal to grieve someone!
@Echomoon Well, not MANDATORY, but highly suggested. We just say mandatory cause my parents think I need it. And yes, I did love Cookie a lot. But we just had to let go. I didn't show any signs of sadness, because I didn't want you guys thinking I was a wimp. And it was Liver Cancer, and if you read this article: https://bluepearlvet.com/medical-articles-for-pet-owners/types-of-cancer-in-dogs/ you will see it's a silent killer (their words) because signs are hard to see. We just took her to the vet because she cut her paw on broken glass, and the vet said she had liver cancer. Dang it, you guys think I'm a wimp now, don't you. And my parents know I'm the silent type, so they just kind of said it like it was an obvious decision, getting a new dog. I was truly heartbroken, so even on Cookie's last moment with us, I refused to say a word. And they gave me the options. And @Stormfrost , I'm not getting an emotional support rock.🤣 My parents and I picked up the dog today. It was hard, but we picked Brownie. The only reason I didn't pick Sophia was because someone else wanted her, but wanted the "poor little girl with anxiety and deppresion" to pick first. So I let the other person take her. Welcome Brownie! Goodbye Cookie. Cookie got to meet Brownie before we put her down. They loved each other from the moment they met. Brownie is really helping me pace through this greif. She's greiving to. She really liked Cookie's easy company, even though it was only for 10 muinites.
I've never heard of any emotional support animals being mandatory because of depression and anxiety. I have both as well, and my dog is only here because me and my brother pestered our parents for two years about a pet. hang on, this doesn't make sense, Brightmist.
how could Cookie have cancer so suddenly? I mean, I guess I wouldn't know since Lily's healthy, but wouldn't have there been signs or something?
another thing, I thought you loved Cookie dearly.
why is this post about choosing another dog? I don't know, but it seems sort of weird that you'd move on so quickly, despite being given such heavy news so suddenly.
What type of cancer is it?
I have anxiety and depression too, and I only have a gerbil. You could get an emotional support rock and it might work. It wouldn't help if you don't have any emotional attachment to the dog, so it would just be an unnecessary expense. I think you should grieve Cookie for about a year before just jumping to a new story.